the 1st

                               Every feel like you have been dooped? You know completely played for a fool. Sometimes when meeting new people we get fooled. Honesty is a frail thing, if they don't know you, you can put forth a persona that might not be you exactly. Or you can put forth your whole complete self, without hiding habits, flaws, or who you really are. But when you open yourself up, you take the chance of getting played or worse, hurt. When we put our feelings on the line, they are just that on the line, exposed, out there for everyone to see and mess with. When a person says they want complete honesty from you and that is what you give them, then they don't like the results. No one ever wants complete honesty, we just think we do. We want to be lied to, we want to be told what we want to hear. Sweet words of deception. Empty flattery. We want to feel that we are pleasing to these new people, because they are pleasing to us. You don't want reality to set in. You want the getting to know you stage to continue, the unknown, its what keeps us interested. Once the mystery is found out the fun is over. Because there is no real connection, nothing to build any kind of relationship on. Nothing to last because we were to honest or not honest enough from the get go. Hanging onto someone who wants nothing to do with you because you can not be what they want, is ,well, kinda stupid. But we have all done it. We just don't want to give up the idea of the person we had, even if the idea isn't who they turn out to be. Worse still is when we fool ourselves. The book and cover saying is true, but sometimes we know from the start how a person is and we are not wrong, but we chose to let ourselves be taken in, perhaps we might be wrong, lets take the time and chance to know this person. Oh, its such great fun. But it leads to dismal feelings, because we knew where it would go because we judged the book by its cover and we were not wrong. We all wear masks, we all deceive, we don't want people to really know  us.
                                  Just thinking out loud for all the world to see.......